Last night on Facebook Heather (from the Extraordinary Ordinary) linked up this beautiful post from Lyz Lenz about having it all. As a working mom trying to do a million different things it really spoke to me.
Basically it was her response to another piece written by Anne Marie Slaughter for The Atlantic titled Why Women Still Can’t Have it All. I call bullshit.
I think there is this huge misconception about “having it all.” Like everything you want is just sitting out there waiting for you to take it. That isn’t the truth at all. Having it all takes work and sacrifice.
You can’t expect to have great kids without instruction and discipline. You can’t expect to have a great career without time and dedication. You can’t expect to have a long lasting marriage without working your ass off to make it work.
Do these things sometimes clash with one another? Of course they do. When I was younger, before kids, working my butt off in public accounting for a “career” I joked that I had achieved work life balance because my life was my work.
It was true at the time, but as I’ve gotten older (and wiser I hope) I realize that balance isn’t about having everything in place at one time. It is about learning how to juggle your responsibilities and aspirations so that the most important ones are in the air getting your attention when they need to be. Sometimes that’s your kids and sometimes that your job.
So… can we have it all? Yes. We can have all that we are willing to work for.
This post is being linked up with Heather for Just Write.