In the last six months I’ve been to two teen/tween centered events, to see The Hunger Games on opening weekend and a Taylor Swift concert in November. The thing that kind of surprised me at both events were the number of young girls trying to emulate the star.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not talking about trends. I think trends are cool. How many of us wore rubber bracelets and lace bows like Madonna in the 80′s? Although I don’t remember ever seeing anyone walk around in a cone bra.
It seems to me that this goes deeper than trends today. The number of girls walking around the Taylor Swift concert with their hair and makeup done exactly like her and with clothes all similar to her styling… it bordered on creepy. At The Hunger Games I would guess that 75% of girls had their hair in a “Katniss” braid. All it takes is a Pinterest or Google search to see how many tutorials are out there for people to copy this style.
The thing that makes Madonna and Taylor Swift and other people like that popular is that they are themselves. They do not try to be anyone else. They embrace their uniqueness.
I’ve heard interviews with Taylor Swift where she described herself as the nerdy girl in class jotting down song lyrics. She didn’t get to be a mega star by trying to fit in. She did it by being Taylor.
I have conversations with my Big Girl…
“Mom do you wish I was smart like J?”
“No Baby. I want you to be smart like you.”
“Mom do you wish I could hit the ball like B?”
“No Baby. I want you to hit the ball like you.”
“Mom do you wish I could dance like D?”
“No Baby. I want you to dance like you.”
Last night I sat at softball practice and watched these seven to nine year old girls running and playing and what I wished for them more than anything was for them to just be themselves.
We don’t need another Madonna or Taylor or even a Katniss. What we need is a you. A you that is the best you that you can be. Be yourself. You are perfect just the way you are.
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” Dr. Seuss